I taught a class this morning. And I did what I thought at the time was a Freudian slip…as the class was in pigeon, I used the cue “Inhale into the suffering.” I quickly tried to correct to softening but the class wasn’t convinced. We had a laugh, moved on with class, and it sat with me.
Because we’ve been taught that we should just pull the boots up and deal with our suffering. That we should put blinders on and not see the pain. Because we take (insert drug/drink legal or not here) in efforts to try and smooth the edges. Why?
Because for what ever reason, we’ve been taught by the powers that be that only positive emotions are to be felt and are to be shared. Have you ever had a shitty day, downloaded on a close friend/family member, and had the words “get over it” uttered your direction? We don’t want to see or commiserate with another person’s rough spots.
That though is when we need to be seen and heard the most. When we are the most vulnerable, we need others. When we show empathy, we heal a part of ourselves that has been broken. When we stand together, we realize that we won’t fall apart.